Well, it seems that things have changed a lot since the days that I was growing up.
Kids now are under the care of numerous nannies, daycare, school, extra curricular activities, then nannies..
That is the shift between the 80's and now. I guess that stay at home mom has seen its time and its now the time for mom to think for themselves, their careers and their husbands.
It's even the time to take care of yourself, even when you're a stay at home mom because you just did not expect this job to be so tiring.
Well, for myself, I am still much involved in my son's life since I have the great opportunity to work from home and I don't have the space for a nanny to sleep over.
I also learn the hard way by my mother that "who create them, soothes them..." basically...I should never count on her to take care of the kid on a weekend so I can have a break.
Well, just the fact that we don't live in the same country clears that out anyway.
So let me tell you something about those plans to having another kid: "it's out of the equation" - at least for the next year !
It's only now that I look back at my life and I see that there was something wrong in my head this past year. I must have been depressed and did not even know it.
I mean, come on...who in the hell spend close to a year reading only baby books? And who is OK in not really wanting to go to the beach because that baby fat is still there and not being at all interested in doing something about it.
Well...that was me.
But don't get me wrong...I figured there was something wrong...and I was ok at the side effects of being a new mother.
But then there comes a time when you say enough is enough !
I remember my sister in law telling me that it took her a good year to find herself again. I just could not understand what she meant by that. It's only after I found myself again that I realized that things were not quite OK ;)
A year and a half later, Noah is almost a big boy and I don't need to watch him that much anymore. He goes to daycare until 11:30, sleeps until 2, plays with us and then gets ready for bed starting at 6 until 7.
In the meantime, I have a real life ! I work out in the morning while he drinks his milk and watch TV, I often go to an office instead of staying at home after dropping him off to day care, I work most of the day and I still have some time to socialize and be with my husband. On weekends, I enjoy spending time with him, while still doing fun stuff with my hubby.
oh...and did I tell you my goal of having a flat stomach? Yeah, no getting pregnant before I get the closest to those 6 pack !
So, this is the new me of 2012...
...An improved mother and wife who is sane up in her head, who is back reading marketing books, working out for her 6 pack, and dreaming of those vacation in May with her Bese Saka Mama's...without her child. My first selfish time in a year and a half !!!!
So yeah...I am not saying that having a kid is not just beautiful...but be ready for those side effects ;)
